{"id":208,"date":"2018-03-29T18:12:44","date_gmt":"2018-03-29T18:12:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/coachambermcauley.com\/?p=208"},"modified":"2023-11-22T13:43:53","modified_gmt":"2023-11-22T13:43:53","slug":"flip-your-flop-take-time-to-align","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/coachambermcauley.com\/2018\/03\/29\/flip-your-flop-take-time-to-align\/","title":{"rendered":"Flip Your Flop \u2013 Take Time to Align"},"content":{"rendered":"

Communication is wobbly when we\u2019re top heavy<\/p>\n

We\u2019ve all experienced a time when communication doesn\u2019t go as planned and it seems as though we\u2019ve lost our balance and flopped over. I have some insights to share about why we become wobbly, why we flop, and most importantly, how to flip ourselves when we\u2019ve flopped in order to communicate more effectively.<\/p>\n

Consider an argument you had that escalated and resulted in frustration. It might have occurred with your spouse, child, boss, friend\u2026 Were you caught up in over thinking, ruminating, or worrying? Chances are that if you were, your focus was too much in your head space, and not enough in your body space which can create communication flops because we\u2019re like an upside-down triangle trying to balance. We\u2019ve all experienced a time when communication doesn\u2019t go as planned and it seems as though we\u2019ve lost our balance and flopped over. I have some insights to share about why we become wobbly, why we flop, and most importantly, how to flip ourselves when we\u2019ve flopped in order to communicate more effectively.<\/p>\n

Consider an argument you had that escalated and resulted in frustration. It might have occurred with your spouse, child, boss, friend\u2026 Were you caught up in over thinking, ruminating, or worrying? Chances are that if you were, your focus was too much in your head space, and not enough in your body space which can create communication flops because we\u2019re like an upside-down triangle trying to balance.<\/p>\n

Over thinking, ruminating and worrying are some of the top reasons why we become wobbly and start to fumble in a conversation. If we catch those thinking patterns soon enough, we can often stabilize and move forward relatively quickly; however, if let those thinking patterns continue to cycle, then we begin to compound the presenting communication challenge. Most of us would like to think we can easily catch ourselves, but as simple as it sounds, it\u2019s not always easy and here are some reasons why you might get stuck in your head space:<\/p>\n

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  1. You don\u2019t like the way the conversation is going and think you aren\u2019t being heard<\/li>\n
  2. You\u2019re triggered by what\u2019s being said and have a sense you\u2019ve lost control<\/li>\n
  3. You have no patience left to carry on the conversation<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    When we communicate only from our head space, it\u2019s difficult for us to be open and objective because we\u2019re filtering out important information that comes from our body space. Consider the first example above, if I start ruminating about how much I don\u2019t like a conversation and blame the other person for not listening to me, the likely outcome is a head-to-head combat. Flop!<\/p>\n

    One of the most effective ways to flip your flop is to get into your body space and it all starts with taking a few deep breaths. After that, scan your body from head to toe and notice how you\u2019re feeling. Do you have a backache or headache that\u2019s creating discomfort? Are you feeling tired or hungry? Is there an area of your body that needs your attention so that you feel more connected and grounded? Click here<\/a> for a link to a ten-minute body scan I recorded for clients.<\/p>\n

    I\u2019ve personally found these insights helpful and am curious to hear your thoughts. I invite you to dedicate some time this month to explore when you flip flop. What are your warning signs? Can you identify any patterns of situations that trigger you and throw you off balance?<\/p>\n

    Thank you for reading and I wish you a month of improved stability and effective communication.<\/p>\n

    Sincerely,<\/p>\n

    Amber<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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